Sunday, 31 May 2015

Sharing is caring

One of my favourite vloggers are the SacconeJolys - a young Irish family living in the UK. Jonathan and his wife Anna vlog their daily lives along with their super cute children, Emilia and Eduardo, and their six Maltese dogs. In one of the episodes, Jonathan reflects on his children growing up and talks about how as we grow older, we are "shared" with more people. For example, when a baby is born the mother is usually the primary source of nourishment, thus creating that bond/attachment between mother and child. When the nursing finally stops, the father can also take part in feeding the baby so now the child is shared between both parents. When the baby becomes a toddler and begins going to school, they're shared with more people such as their teachers and classmates. The older the person gets, the more people we have to share them with - friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, colleagues, etc. You get the point! :-)

 

Growing up an only child, sharing is not exactly one of my strongest skills. To this day, I still get anxious when I have to share my things. There are only a handful of people that I can share with and not feel this way. When it comes to relationships - family, friends, my boyfriend - I can get quite protective and I also get that similar anxious feeling when I have to "share" them with people I'm not too fond of. I look forward to becoming a parent one day and Jonathan's discussion really struck a chord. If I am already so protective of the people I love and care for, what will that feeling be like between my child and me? However, perhaps realising and becoming aware of this early on will lessen the anxiety when the time comes.

I'm still working on my sharing skills and I think it will be something I'll be working on for a long time. Honestly speaking, I don't think I'll ever be fully comfortable in the sharing department but I am, after all, a work in progress.

Are you currently working on improving certain skills?

Cheers,
Jordyn xx